You don’t want to believe this is “just the way it is.”
At one time, your partner and you had a great relationship, one where you both felt loved, secure, and valued. But life has happened — you’ve gotten busy, faced unexpected challenges, changed as individuals — and now you’ve become caught in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration that neither of you can seem to get out of. “You always” and “you never” find their way into arguments (leaving you both feeling hurt and frustrated), and when you’re honest … you feel more like roommates than romantic partners.
You want to make this life together work.
You’re ready to feel like your partner and you are on the same team again, like you’re moving together in the same direction. Because you know what’s possible: the love, the security, and the happiness that can come from this relationship. You’re willing to work together to make it a reality again, but are realizing you may need some help and support to get there.
Couples therapy can help.
Together, we’ll work on:
Communication
Your ability to communicate dictates how your relationship functions. Whether you’re dealing with seemingly constant arguments or are simply not talking much at all, relationship therapy will provide you with healthy, productive ways to listen, talk, and ask for what you need.
Empathy
You are the best version of yourself (and therefore the best partner) when you feel seen, heard, and valued. We’ll work on recognizing, communicating, and honoring your individual needs and expectations in order for you both to get the most out of your relationship.
Perspective
Many times, the fight about the coffee cup left out of the dishwasher isn’t actually about the cup. In couples therapy, we’ll dig into the deeper things behind the disconnection you’re feeling. With an understanding of why things are happening, you can work together to change them at the source.
Can this really get better? (And can couples therapy really help us?)
I understand if one (or both) of you is asking yourselves these questions. Choosing to go to relationship therapy is a big decision! If you have been struggling for a while, but you know how great your relationship can be (and still see glimpses of it from time to time), therapy may be one of the best investments you can make in achieving that together.
Relationship therapy can help you:
Improve day-to-day communication and connection
Feel more seen, heard, and valued in your relationship
Navigate life stressors that may be getting in the way of your connection
Re-establish intimacy and excitement
Understand the roots of your conflict or disconnection and address them